Stop Asking "Why Did You Stay?" And Start Asking Them Why They Did It

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Asking a survivor of domestic violence, “Why did you stay?” is called victim blaming, and it’s no different than asking a rape victim:  Why did you wear that dress? or those shoes? or…   STOP IT.

It is irrelevant and counter productive. So stop It. NOW.

How about asking the abuser: “What the hell did you do that for?!”  or “What’s wrong with you, man?!” Or better yet, just tell them that they could end up in jail.  Because domestic violence of any kind is a crime.  And a crime victim is never responsible for the illegal act perpetrated against them. Never. So just stop it. NOW.